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What Are The 15 Signs of Your Entitlement Shadow?
Discover your shadow self, which enslaves your superhuman, and causes you and others to suffer
by Aletheia Luna - June 20, 2021 - Dr. John Townsend, The Entitlement Cure, Summarized & Edited by Richard Lee
How Entitlement Enslaves You
A sense of entitlement leads to vicious cycles of unhappiness, distress, disappointment, depression, anger, laziness, overweight, exhausting perfectionism, toxic self-love, self-loathing, Bipolar Disorder (which is actually self-absorption), etc. Then these mental/emotional conditions culminate into further problems; from recurring financial problems, shallow/bad relationships, low immune system to chronic disease (including cancer) and disabilities, and early death.
And of course, these unhealthy outcomes makes an entitled person the target market to sell all sorts of products and services to; from psychotherapy, "wellness", credit cards, "cool" stuff, lavish homes & apartments, "self-help", pharma, alcohol, to medical services (90% of all medical dollars goes to chronic disease — sicknesses caused by self-sabotage like a sense of entitlement). Globally, over $14 Trillion per year is spent on all these products and services.
Why do you think the media, consumer companies, and medical industries keep pushing out messages, "YOU DESERVE IT!", "YOU DESERVE THE BEST!", "YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING!", "YOU DESERVE A BREAK TODAY!", "YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU WANT!", "THE WORLD IS YOURS!", etc.? Because entitled people make them the most MONEY. In the trillions.
Feeding unconscious people these entitled messages is like a pig farmer feeding their pigs to be fat. Why? For the slaughter. Is it a wonder why, with the highest per capita income in the world, 80% of people in the U.S live paycheck to paycheck?
The above truth is why all efforts for self-improvement, achieving goals, and New Years Resolutions suffer a 3% to 8% "success rate." Said differently, a near 100% failure rate. With single-digit success rates; people got better not because of the methods they used but in spite of the methods they used. Because the methods from The Matrix are all designed to fail. That is how it has a constant supply of
entitled, suffering and sick people to feed upon.
Does A Sense of Entitlement Make You Poorer?
The companies owned by the ultra-rich feed entitlement messages to the masses to get their money and enslave them in debt — which is also owned by the banks of the ultra-rich.
So entitled people may think they're "winning", but in truth, they are being used, controlled, and manipulated as slaves in a massive parasitic system ("The Matrix") designed to take their money, their wealth, their happiness, and health.
When we were young it was cute when we threw tantrums.
People would coo at us, maybe even pick us up and hold us, telling us in ooey-gooey tones that “you’ll get it later” or “you’ve got to wait a little while.”
Then our tears would be mopped up, our snotty little noses would be wiped, and we’d be placed gently to the ground again.
As we grew older, some of us would learn to wait our turn, be patient, and show consideration for others. Some of us, however, didn’t.
We’d continue throwing tantrums but in more mature and sophisticated ways.
We’d continue to demand our fair share from others, but more subtly, and often without screaming or rolling around on the floor crying.
And lastly, we’d continue to expect special treatment just because … well, because it’s us and we deserve it – naturally!
Well here’s the thing … we’ve all got to grow up at some point. We’ve all got to realize that we’re not the center of the universe.
As a prevalent collective shadow in this world, we need to be willing to face this flaw with courage in order to grow as people and connect more from the heart with others.
Me! Me! Me!
Having a sense of entitlement can easily be mistaken as natural, and even healthy.
After all, don’t our parents and societies constantly tell us that “we’re unique,” “we’re special,” and “we’re number one”?
The truth is, having a sense of entitlement is a cancerous malignant form of toxic self-love because it often harms the people around us, which indirectly harms us in the long term.
What Does Having a “Sense of Entitlement” Mean?
In essence, a sense of entitlement is formed and upheld by the belief that we are the center of the universe, and if the universe doesn’t meet our needs and desires, all hell will break loose.
This narcissistic mindset (born of transgenerational, early, and preset trauma) is often the result of failing to learn as children and young adults that we are not at the center of the universe, and other people don’t merely exist to serve our needs and wants.
Examples of Entitled Behaviors:
Some typical examples of entitled behavior include the following:
Tim and Estelle are in a long-term relationship. Tim works full-time to support Estelle and their child in a small two-bedroom apartment. Estelle spends a large portion of Tim’s money on dresses and fancy accessories. When confronted, Estelle screams that she never wanted to live a “poor and lonely life,” and Tim never treats her anyway.
Antonio shows up unexpectedly at his mother’s house drunk one night expecting to receive a bed and a meal. When his mother refuses, telling him to call his girlfriend to pick him up, he argues with her and drives away in a drunken rage, not talking to her for the next 6 months.
Katie and Xiang are best friends. But when Katie doesn’t respond to one of Xiang’s texts within half an hour, Xiang blocks her and doesn’t talk to her for the next week. Xiang fights with Katie accusing her of “not caring” and “forgetting about her.”
Alex and Ben are a gay couple who are about to get married. While Ben wants a humble and modest ceremony, Alex wants it to be extravagant and expensive. Meeting with the wedding adviser while Ben is sick one day, Alex raises the budget from $5,000 to $20,000. When Ben finds out he demands angrily why. Alex says that he “deserves more than a measly little wedding” and guilt trips Ben into going through with it. Now Ben has hidden resentment toward Alex.
Karen loves to preach about her belief in freedom of speech to everyone including her friend, Vanessa. But one day, when Vanessa respectfully shares her position on religion that didn't match with Karen's position, Karen triggers into insults and yelling at Vanessa. Karen's entitlement inflicted emotional shrapnel on yet another victim. Then Karen blames her lack of deep, quality peer relationships on "other women are just haters."
Frank wants a better life for his wife, Vicky. But Frank still is glued to his couch playing video games at 30 years old. This, even finding out his choice to not seek peer male connection to share feelings, and not seek mentors so Frank can unlearn bad knowledge and get good knowledge, is what is keeping him stuck and their bills piling up. Then Vicky gives Frank a loving ultimatum to get up and do the hard work of growing up. But Frank erupts into a child-tantrum, blaming Vicky for being "materialistic." Yet, all the while, the stress and pressures of mounting bills is making them both suffer and be sick.
At 32, Linda is tired of the single life. So she gets on a dating site. She espouses she only wants unconditional love. Yet, she then posts a list of conditions of the man that she would only give her love to in return. These non-negotiable conditions include; he must be over six feet tall, six-figure earner and/or ambitious, a six-pack, sexy, funny, has blonde/brown hair, and Caucasian.
Then Jim, a fellow member on the dating site notices Linda's entitled hypocrisy, which is keeping quality guys like Jim from contacting
her. So he emails her with compassion and asks her, "Hi, I know many times I don't see my own self-sabotage and need the care
of others to show me so I can stop causing my own suffering.
There's already enough outside of us causing us to suffer, right? LOL So I'm caringly asking; do you see, you're wanting unconditional love, but you're only offering very conditional love in return? Can you see you're wanting a perfect, high-grade diamond from someone and offering your imperfect low-grade diamond in return, so to speak? : ) Do you see how this can be a major turn-off
for men?"
Instead of replying with a humble acceptance of the truth that Jim offered Linda; she replies with, "Just as I thought, all the good men are taken, and now this site is full of misogynistic jerks like you who hates women who KNOW WHAT THEY WANT!!! Don't ever email me again!"
So so sad. Linda will never know, Jim checked off all her very high conditions list. In fact, had Linda shown she was more humble and self-reflective, Jim would have asked Linda on a date. Then, who knows? Linda continues (in futility) to try and trade her low-grade
diamond for a perfect highest grade diamond, thereby creating her own toxic, self-fulfilling prophecy — "all the good ones
are taken."
These are only a few illustrations, but there are countless entitlement stories out there that exemplify both a passive and aggressive disregard for others and toxic self-love.
Shadow Work & Self-Growth
We all contain a sense of entitlement. Let’s face it, it’s part of having an ego and being human! So the question is; to what degree is our entitlement? We must answer honestly or we will continue to be enslaved, suffer, and cause others to suffer.
Unfortunately, this trait is one of those sneaky shadows that we often aren’t aware of within ourselves and others – before it’s
too late!
This article is about helping you to be honest with yourself, do some compassionate soul searching, and evolve on a mental, emotional, and spiritual level.
If you’ve come to this page because you’re enraged at someone who exhibits signs of entitlement, pause to reflect for a moment …
… what makes you so angry at this entitled person?
And might you have displayed the same behaviors in the past or even present?
Let’s be real here. None of us are perfect. We’re not excusing another person’s behavior here. Instead, we’re trying to regain a sense of our own self-empowerment.
Shadow work helps us to reclaim our distorted projections and not be controlled by habits such as disgust, bitterness, resentment, hatred, self-absorption, and idol chasing.
We’ll explore shadow work a little more later.
15 Entitlement Symptoms:
Like anything in life, there is a spectrum, and while you may or may not be a full-blown narcissist, you may exhibit a certain level of selfishness that makes your own life and other people’s lives hard.
Here are some common sense of entitlement signs:
1. Imposing unrealistic demands on family, children, friends, acquaintances, lovers, employees, and/or employers.
2. Tendency to feel sorry for oneself if things don’t work out the way one wants (self-pity) and openly advertising this in a melodramatic,
attention-seeking way.
3. Being called by others names such as “bully,” “manipulative,” “ruthless,” “egotistical,” “vain,” or “liar.”
4. The belief that one deserves happiness and has to go to great, sometimes extreme lengths to ensure that happens, usually at the
expense of others.
5. Punishing people when they don’t do what one wants either passively (e.g., silent treatment, gossiping, spreading rumors) or
aggressively (e.g., shouting, verbally/physically abusing).
6. Constantly seeing other people as competition or “threats.”
7. Tendency to exhibit many double-standards in the way one behaves/interacts with other people, e.g., I can be late and forget my
duties and commitments, but YOU can’t; I can treat myself, but YOU can’t; I can abuse or disrespect you, but YOU can’t to ME.
8. Tendency to take more than give in friendships and relationships.
9. Tendency to look out for oneself, and one’s needs and desires more than anyone else 100% of the time.
10. Having a hard time negotiating or compromising.
11. Having a deep-seated conviction that one is intrinsically top priority and should always come first, even at the expense of stepping
on others.
12. Facing others who are constantly offended or upset by what one says/does.
13. Thinking that one is better or more important than other people, and other people should see this and unquestioningly comply.
14. Craving admiration and adoration.
15. Asserting one’s dominance or superiority over other people and finding it second nature.
How to Overcome a Sense of Entitlement:
First, always embrace Common Humanity. It’s important to remember that we all suffer from personality flaws.
While some of us are very stingy or deeply insecure, some of us – you guessed it – have a toxic sense of entitlement!
Whether you’ve reached rock bottom in your relationship, career, have gone through a dark night of the soul and/or are simply wanting to better your inner and outer life, we all reach a point in life when we face the truth about ourselves.
And the truth hurts and it's uglier than we thought. But like a good deep massage (they hurt), if we follow this path of the high enlightenment, we reap unimaginable treasures for ourselves and others.
We all have deceitful hearts too. So we tend to hide behind denial and avoidance.
Have you been honest with yourself here? How many signs of the 15 signs of entitlement do you show?
Do you show other entitlement signs?
If so, join the club called The Human Race! And more good news; you can slowly eradicate your entitlement and the suffering it causes by releasing the hidden trauma, and toxic fear/shame/stress that is the root cause of entitlement and other shadow behaviors.
The best way to do so is by learning and actively practicing PUUR Level 3. This course and practice is specially targeted for the latter purpose, and this is only for the most powerful of superhumans because Level 3 is rigorous!
Yet, PUUR Level 3 will enable you the fastest and biggest BREAKTHROUGHS from entitlement so you can enjoy more inner freedom, a higher quality of life, and empower those you love and lead to do the same.
In PUUR Level 3 You'll Learn:
1. How these four types of trauma (that you're not aware of) causes the toxic fear/shame/stress that triggered us into hiding in our
shadow selves.
2. Developing more self-awareness and interoception to release the trauma...and thus the shadow behaviors. Without being aware
of what you think, feel, and do, you won’t be able to progress very far.
3. Begin to do MAP work and journaling to develop a sense of progress, presence, and a more powerful understanding of yourself.
4. Identifying your inner expectations about the world, as well as deep-seated beliefs and ideals that are not aligned with the absolute
reality and the truth governing us all. Often, having a sense of entitlement stems from unhealthy or unrealistic perceptions that you
may not even be aware of. "When you fight the truth — you will always suffer." -Oprah
5. Work to accept life as it is without imposing (in futility) your beliefs, ideals, or expectations over WHAT IS. This includes
compassionately accepting yourself — shadow self, warts, and all. Practicing pure self-disclosure with others so you can be truly heard
and thus seen.
This embodies you with love, the antidote against trauma and toxic fear/shame/stress. When you embody enough love, then you can
experience the freedom of self-forgiveness. Then you are free to truly forgive others. Not accepting yourself is a toxic behavior born of
another shadow behavior: Self-sufficiency Delusion. Embody the courage of letting go of unrealistic, perfectionistic beliefs and wants.
6. Concentrate on developing compassion and empathy for others and yourself. Asking “How does this affect others?” “How does s/he
feel right now?” “How would I feel if I was her?” helps to broaden the mind, and open it to new and beneficial ways of thinking. Most
have a hard time feeling self-compassion/acceptance. Learn the PUUR somatic technique that will help you breakthrough to feel it!
7. Celebrate with others, and celebrate others (especially the PUUR Pals) in your life! Pay attention to the happiness and joy of others:
happiness shared is happiness multiplied. Also, being thankful for the people in your life allows you to place more importance on
them, seeing how truly special they are.
8. Realizing, PUUR Level 3 is your best self-care which allows your inner-cup to be filled with love and joy so you can feel it and give it to
others. While oppositely, not doing Level 3 will be your default choice to have your inner-cup be filled with trauma and toxicity to be
poured onto those you love and lead. PUUR self-care is an amazing gift for others and yourself.
9. Explore your shadow self after building healthy self-compassion. If you do daily PUUR, this can happen within just a few weeks.
Learning to be gentle with yourself always comes before shadow work because, otherwise, this practice can easily lead to more self-
loathing/self-disgust.
This is why we must always do shadow work in conjunction with daily PUUR with others giving us their love, compassion, and empathy through their compassionate inquiries and presence. And we enjoy doing the same for them.
Change won’t come overnight, in fact, without PUUR Level 3, the vast majority (over 90%) will never breakthrough from the bondage and suffering of their shadow self.
But with your commitment and help from your superhuman PUUR Pals, you can conquer most of your shadow self (perhaps 90% over time) and enjoy your best freedom, inner-wealth, impact on others and our world. That's being a Level 3 (of 4) Superhuman!
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